Swinging IS NOT for everyone! This is the most important thing to understand when answering the question “Is Swinging Right for you?”. To swing as a couple requires a different kind of relationship than most couples have. It requires a high degree of commitment, honesty, and communication. Most couples have a difficult time even talking openly about sex, let alone admitting that they find a co-worker, neighbor, or stranger attractive. If you don’t have this higher level of relationship swinging will very likely tear your relationship apart.
If you can’t already easily discuss ANY topic with your partner, then you aren’t ready to talk about swinging. However, if you have great communication, can be honest with each other about everything, and have a very strong commitment to not let anything negatively affect your relationship then you have a good base to start with. From there it’s a matter of putting that communication and honesty to the test and talking openly about your fantasies. If you’ve not already brought up the topic with your partner now is the time to do it. Tell them about the fantasies you’d like to fulfill and why. Have this discussion outside the bedroom. As often, we may be comfortable with ideas in the “heat of the moment” that we wouldn’t consider in the light of day.
If you discover that your partner is equally interested in swinging, then it is time to set some ground rules. Determine what your boundaries will be. Talk about what you are each comfortable doing or seeing your partner do. Only move forward with those items you both agree on. Once you can agree on your boundaries and fantasies, you might just find that swinging is right for you.
Have you talked to your partner about swinging yet?